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Selfless love

It’s been a minute since I’ve written. That’s because the last few weeks have been literally insane. My son had another surgery and after spending about a week in hospital, we came home to deal with his recovery.  I can’t possibly get into all the things I’ve learnt over these past few weeks. But one of the things that I feel compelled to share is the selflessness of love.

Full recovery from this last surgery takes about 3 to 4 weeks. That’s because my son had surgery to correct a severe hypospadias that he was born with. Probably best to google that if you don’t know what it is… But in a nutshell, he has had to go through three surgeries to correct his pee-pee because he was born without an opening at the tip of his pee-pee. If you have any emotion, the very thought of that would make you cross your legs and cringe. My little man had to go through that 3 times in the last year as the surgery was done in phases.

As a mom…and a single mom, I can’t tell you how hard it is to see your little one in pain and know that you can’t do anything to help. And this feeling will last for the duration of his entire recovery.

Over the last month or so though, I’ve learned that love is not selfish. There were many times when I was frustrated by his crying…, by his inability to sleep…as he constantly tugged and tugged at the area and made things worse. Everything was stressful. Bathing…walking, sleeping… In addition to this, I am faced with the fact that every surgery brings on a level of trauma that makes it hard for him to adjust. After each surgery and particularly after this one, he became petrified of his bed, being left alone, even seeing anyone other than me. And so… I had to be there for him. All of the time.

I can’t tell you how exhausted I was…,am… And to add on that, I had to go back to work in order to keep up going. But each day, I find that God gives me an extra measure of grace. This grace is the grace to not think about how I feel, or what I need, or what I didn’t have. It’s the grace to focus on what my son needs, what he is feeling and what he is going through. And so, every day I’ve been waking up after 2 to 3 hours of sleep sometimes and just holding him, encouraging him, praying for him. And letting him know that it’s going to be okay. I make him what he wants to eat. Play with him as much as I can despite how tired I am. I do all of his appointments back and forth to others cities…and I do it acknowledging that I am grateful to God that I have a son.

I say all of this, not to boast about me. Not to complain about what I am going through. But because I find that people are often so consumed with themselves, that they miss what others around them are going through. I might be tired or getting weak or whatever… but someone that I claim to love, is going through something and he needs me. He doesn’t need my frustration. He doesn’t need me to neglect him. He doesn’t need me to focus on me. He needs me to love on him and encourage him and let him know that it’s going to be okay.

When we make life about ‘us’ we will be miserable. There will never be a moment of peace and happiness because we essentially can’t pinpoint why we miserable. It’s really because we are so focused on us. But if we can focus on others… how much happier we would be.

Real love is really not about ‘us’. It’s not about ‘me’. When Christ went to the cross, he had to let go of what it would mean for Him and begin to focus on what it would mean for ‘us’. Real love focuses on the ‘other’. 

And so I want to leave on that note. I challenge you to not just talk about loving people when they are good to you. But actually manifest love. Give them a taste of selfless love, when things are not going so great. When they are lying in hospital and are miserable and grumpy because of the pain. Or when they are feeling alone and they can’t articulate what they need. How do you react to these things? Do you say ‘well I can’t deal with that right now. I am too tired’? Or do you put aside yourself and give of yourself as Christ would have you to do?

 

 

 

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Mirror Mirror on the Wall

I will never forget June 25th, 2009. It was the day that Michael Jackson died. But that’s not the reason that date is etched in my mind. It was the day that I realized that the man I loved so very much did not love me at all.

It was a horrific day for me. I had given him everything. Probably much more than he deserved. And when I tried to fight for our relationship, he told me that I was a ‘pest’, that I was ‘harassing’ him and that he would call the police if I didn’t stop bothering him. I sat on the floor in emotional pain… a pain that could not be felt but felt like the worse pain ever, as I flashed back to the day we first met, the many adventures we shared over the years, the talks of getting married… and now this conversation. How did it come to this? What did I do to deserve that?

Within split seconds, I felt hatred. Not for him. But for myself. How could I let this happen to me? How could I let him into my heart. It was not the first betrayal I had. And it was not the last, unfortunately. But it was the experience that first made me feel ugly and unwanted and that gave the enemy an opportunity to whisper death into my ears.

After crying for about 11 hours that night, I remember crawling to the bathroom. I had been too weak to walk. Dehydrated probably. But I heard a voice say “get up from this place” and so I did. I positioned myself in front of the tiny bathroom mirror, only to see that the 11 hours of crying had made my face look swollen, my eyes red, my complexion darkened and my lips chapped.

There was that still small voice again…

I want you to look in this mirror and convince yourself that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.

It was asking the impossible. Clearly my boyfriend didn’t think I was beautiful enough. Why should I? Clearly I wasn’t wearing my makeup. How could I say that to myself? It wasn’t true. Clearly , at that present moment, I did not feel like pepping myself. How could I? But here was the Holy Spirit and He wanted me to play this ‘Mirror Mirror on the wall’ game?

Out of reluctant obedience, I muttered “I’m fearfully and wonderfully made”. Even as I said it, more tears strolled down my face. But I know I had to say it. And so I said it a few more times and then out of exhaustion, I fell asleep on the bathroom floor.

My hurt, my pain…did not end that day or even that week. It probably took years to be honest. But I learned something very valuable throughout the process. And that is in order to move forward and receive God’s best for me, I have to love myself.

I think the hardest thing for some of us…is not loving the God we cannot see, but loving the person in the mirror. We know the person in the mirror. We know all of his or her mess-ups, the mistakes that were made. We are the first to criticize him/her for being the way they are. But the truth is, it is impossible to love anyone else, until you have fallen in love with you.

Before you could give yourself to anyone, you have to be able to give yourself to you. Can you look in the mirror on your worst day… The day when you look as crappy as ever and say ‘I love you’?

You might have done a million things wrong. But just as God is gracious with you, you need to be gracious with yourself. It doesn’t matter how bad things were. You need to forgive yourself for the past mistakes and begin to see yourself from God’s lenses.

It wasn’t until I got this revelation that my perspective on life and love changed. An inability to love yourself is actually an insult to the person that God has for you. Essentially we are telling that person (and probably each person that we go out with) …”well…I don’t really love me. But hopefully you can love me.” How wrong is that?

I think that’s probably why a lot of relationships/marriages grow cold. We get married thinking the other person will love us enough. That they Will make us happy. And then after a few years… Reality catches up and we find that we are unhappy. Many people say that they are no longer happy in their marriages. That they are no longer in love with their spouses.  While that might be true, I believe that many of us are just not happy with ourselves.

It has not been easy, but everyday despite how I feel, I look in the mirror and tell myself that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. That I am beautiful. Yes, I have imperfections. But the Potter who created me knew that this Clayed vessel he made would have a few kinks. Still there is not another vessel quite like me. So everyday in my mirror, I get up and say… ‘You rock, Darlene’. I might not be perfect , but I am reaching towards perfection as the Holy Spirit shows me how. And while in that process, I continue to love my evolving self.

I challenge you today to come to terms with who God has made you. Ask God for help to Search yourself. Identify all the things that you hate or dislike about yourself, whether those things are experiences or mistakes or actual physical attributes. Once you’ve identified them, ask the Holy Spirit to show you what you can learn from having those experiences or features. You see, in every experience there is something that can be learnt. And every physical quality is an opportunity to fall in love with God  and the uniqueness of being you.

I encourage you to daily grab a mirror and confess your undying love for…you.

Psalm 139:14 (NKJV) 14: I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.

Let’s talk about relationships…

In the last few weeks, I’ve felt a tug in my spirit to talk about something that I don’t even know if I am qualified to talk about. But I feel I should talk about it. That subject is  ‘relationships’.

Now before I begin talking about this subject…  I want to say a few things…Disclaimers really:

  1. I am not married. I want to be some day… I think. But not unless God connects me to someone who is worthy of me. Yes… I said that.
  2. I am a single mom. That pretty much reiterates the first point. But I say that because I need to admit that I’ve made some tragic mistakes in the dating world. And there are times I feel as though I should be the last person to talk to people about relationships or love or marriage. But I feel I have something to say.
  3. I don’t and won’t pretend to be an expert on this subject. I am not. But in the last few years, all of the ‘tragedies’ I’ve experienced have led me into the haven of God’s arms only to ask the question, “Daddy, what was I suppose to learn from that experience?”. I won’t lie. There have been a lot of negative experiences. Painful experiences. Experiences that have forced me to seek counsel both in the world and in the church. Experiences that have made me want to give up on life and question why I was still on this earth. But this is exactly why I feel I need to talk about this. I have gone through some of the worst experiences I think any woman could go through, and by the grace of God, I am still here.
  4. I don’t want anyone reading my blog to take what I say as gospel. It’s not. But as I’ve sought God time after time, I’ve asked God to give me wisdom about relationships. I’m not perfect. But I do believe that my wisdom is increasing.

For tonight/today, I want to start simple.

Oh. Wait. There’s one more thing. I can’t promise that I will write to you every day. I can say that as the Holy Spirit leads, I will jot down points and then as I find time (i told you about my single mom deal, work, charity, business venture, etc…), I will sit down to write… probably at the 11th hour of the night. So if you find what I have to say interesting, I’d encourage you to subscribe so that you can get the notifications about posts in your email inbox.

So for tonight, I want to start by asking a simple question. On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your satisfaction with your current relationship? And if you are not in a relationship, judge your past relationship. How would you rate your satisfaction with your past relationship/s.

I want you to be honest. Not with me. But with yourself. Don’t put this off. But rather, take a moment on your way home, or as you go through the grocery store… and ask yourself this question.

Then ask yourself, why did you rate the relationship the way you did.

If you rated it 9 or 10…. congrats. You don’t need this blog.

But if you rated it as anything less… I suspect it’s because you feel that there is a void. You feel it could be better… because something is missing. You can’t put your hand on it. But you just feel something could be better. Once you’ve rated your relationship and figured out why you rated it the way you did…hold that thought.

I’ll be back soon with a few tidbits.

The love walk

For the last few weeks, Paul’s spiel about love in 1Cor13 has been weighing on my mind. Love is such an overrated concept these days, that I doubt whether most really understand it.

As I observe events that are taking place in my personal life, and around me these last few weeks, my heart simply aches at how easily people throw around the phrase ‘luv you’. And yet at the very thought of something not working in their favour, that ‘love’ goes out the front door.

I’ve been meditating on Paul’s chapter on love and I realize a few things….

Love is not selfish

Really…it’s not. Love always puts what’s best, what’s kind. what’s needed for others…first. Before it’s own agenda. When I think about Christ and how He went to a cross that He didn’t have to go to… I see this kind of love. Christ didn’t go “Well Pops, look here… I don’t know if this cross is for me”. Instead, He said “not my will, but thine be done” because even though going to the cross was of no benefit to Him. it was a tremendous necessity for all the generations of believers that would come afterwards.

Love doesn’t give based on what is given. 

That is… it doesn’t look so much at how ‘I’ should be treated. But how I should treat others.  Today, I find so many conflicts are based on how we are treated. Rather than how we treat others. We consider how we should bless others, by how they have blessed us. We talk or don’t talk to others, based on how they talk or don’t talk to us. We pour out our love to others based on how much they pour out to us. And God forbid, if they have angered us, our love tank is sealed. We never stop to consider that there may be reasons why people treat us a certain way. We just respond to what we see on the surface.

Don’t get me wrong… I don’t think we should allow people to mistreat us and abuse us. There is something to be said for boundaries. But I struggle with understanding why we even bother to love others based on how much they give to us. Christ didn’t hesitate to give us the salvation beyond what we deserved. He did it anyways. Can you imagine what it would be like if we loved others despite how they love, how they treat us? If we employed God’s love in our hearts for others?

Love isn’t about a talk. It’s an actual walk.

Many times we acknowledge that we love others. But then in our walk we treat them differently. Someone always said to me if you love something or someone…you make time or room for it in your life. Whether that be hamburgers or a relationship. Love of it will always make room for it. We can say “Jesus loves you” all day long. Saying it doesn’t make us believe it. It’s knowing what He has done that proves it. It’s knowing what He continues to do that makes us fully understand that He actually loves us.

I encourage you today, to examine your love walk. God desires for us to love like Christ. Not based on our flesh or ‘self’. But based on how He loves. When we love like Christ, our ulterior motives are placed on the back burner. This is not easy. There might be some in our lives who are just not easy to deal with. But God would have us love them anyways because it exemplifies Him. In fact, sometimes the only way a person can see God is through how you treat them. Love is extremely patient. It is kind. It is not puffed up. It doesn’t take account of the wrongs done to it. And even when it is treated unkindly, unfairly, it still does what it is supposed to.

Keep the faith

I think faith is something that grows with each experience you have. In fact the more you go through trials, you will either be faced with the choice to increase your faith by trusting God or you will lose your faith by deciding to not trust in God.

In my opinion faith doesn’t come easy. It’s the most intangible thing on the planet and the key is that you have to hold on to it like a football until you ‘touchdown’. And when you do make a touchdown, you’ve got to keep fighting to hold on it before the enemy takes it away from you (By the way, I know nothing about football really. I just think that the guys are cute. So if my analogy doesn’t make sense, I’m sorry 🙂 ).

But the point is that faith is so important for having continuous ‘touchdown’ victories, that you have to be aggressive in attaining and keeping it. Faith determines your level of peace. It determines your joy, your hope and your willingness to love again after people have jaded your perception of love. We know that faith comes by hearing and hearing the word of God. But apart from this deep regurgitation of scripture, how else do we get and ‘keep’ our faith?

I think that one of the ways we can  do that is to surround ourselves with a team of people who are faith pursuing  warriors…People who are intent on going ‘up’ rather than stay in the Lodebar of fear that the enemy has them. People on a defense football team… have one thing in common. They are all going in the same direction chasing after the ‘ball’ (that’s my last analogy, I promise).

It’s not that I am a snob or that I am shy at making friends(although I am sure many think I am one of the two). But after years of ‘nonsense’, and allowing people into my life who pulled me down in so many ways, I have had to make a very conscious choice to watch the type of people I allow in my inner circle. When you’re in the fight to hold on to your faith, you have to watch those negative, fear filled so called believers around you. And man, do they come in all shapes and forms.

Recently, the Holy Spirit began speaking to me about something that I’ve been failing at for many years- choosing the people who come into my life. I remember lying in bed one night, and hearing Him say to my heart, “I’ve called you to love. But I didn’t call you to be stupid. Guard your heart. Let your heart be a sieve. Do not let anyone and anything into it. Filter in the people that are good for you. And anything that will destroy you, be prepared to dispel.”

Since then, it’s been a fight. Not a struggle. But I feel like I’m constantly in a war, fighting to keep my faith. I know that if I lose faith, I’ll lose everything- my joy, my peace, my hope. And so I’ve learned (and I continue to learn), to shield myself from people and things that would breed fear instead of faith and that would cause my faith level to dissipate.

There are times when I am speaking to people and I realize that (although they may have my best interest at heart), they can’t help but to spew questions and comments that do not line up with the word of God. Questions like “How are you going to do this alone?” Or “Oh dear, I had an aunt who had that and she died!”.

Such people cannot be on my team. They can be ‘there’….somewhere on the outskirts and I will pray for them. But if I am not careful to establish the boundaries of whom I let into my life, I will become a fearful and carnal person. I don’t want that. So I love them… from a distance…

What I want to be around are people who will say- “You’re not alone. God has you. He’s always had you. WE can do this.” or “You can beat this. I don’t know anyone who has, but I believe God can do it”.

Those are the people who will help me score a touchdown.

What is God saying to you about the people in your life?

Are they encouraging, supporting and building you up in a spirit of faith and power?
Or are they encouraging a spirit of fear in you.
Are they nurturing the fruits of the spirit in you? Or are they making you less of the Christian that God wants you to be?
Do they enhance your life by motivating or energizing you? Or do they trouble your spirit?

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear…(2Tim1:7)

So let’s not align ourselves with that spirit.

Selah.

Forgiveness

I often wonder why God felt it was so important for us to forgive people who we feel have wronged us. In His Word, Christ Himself said-

Forgive your brother seventy times seven… in one day.

My flesh thinks that this is utter madness. But my spirit has grown to know that the longer you hold on to the wrong or wrongs that someone has done to you, the more you intoxicate yourself.

Have you ever noticed that when someone has hurt or offended you, you mull over the offense for hours…Sometimes this turns into days, and then days might turn into weeks and months and years. The silly thing is the longer we mull over the offense, we create a movie in our heads that is actually far from the truth. And the sad part is, we believe it.

It’s like watching Batman. Have you ever watched Batman so many times, that you think you’re Batman or the villain in the movie? In your head, the character and the words that they say become real. ( I have by the way. I thought I was Catwoman).

I think we do the same with our offences. We plug them into our Little brain DVD/Bluray player and we replay it over and over… Until we seemingly have memorized each aspect of the conflict by heart. But the unfortunate thing with going over offenses in real time, is that all you have to rewind the conversation is your memory, which is quite fallible at replaying events in its complete accuracy. In fact, I think each time we replay an offence in our head, we add on pieces or take away pieces to make our story justify our anger a little more. But this is exactly what the enemy depends on. And he will use it to make sure we become bitter as possible and unforgiving to our brethren.

Unforgiveness is a powerful toxin. It dictates your life if you don’t address it. It can lead to bitterness if you don’t deal with it.

Bitterness will defile if you ever get to that point.

I’ve recently had to deal with a situation that could have led me straight into a path of unforgiveness and then bitterness. While I had every opportunity to be hurt and go over what the other person had done, I decided to just let it go and trust God to heal my heart. Notice what I said… “Heal MY Heart.” Not ‘fix the other person’. Not “make them realize what they did wrong”. Just heal my heart. You know what? I feel so much better. I have no malice in my heart. I have no bitterness towards anyone. And while I know there might be residual hurt there… I am trusting God to heal ME from that, rather than point fingers at others for their shortcomings and how they offended me.

I really believe that unforgiveness in one season of your life, if brought over to other seasons, can dictate the outcomes of those other seasons. I don’t want that for myself. In fact, however God chooses to move forward in my life, I don’t want to have to look back on my past experiences and be fearful and angry at others He will place in my future. I think this is why God is so big on forgiveness. Unforgiveness binds you. It’s can be a long lasting hemorrhoid if you let it. And so Christ urges us to let the offence/s go. Don’t let them stay. Don’t mull them over. Let them go. Let mercy reign in your heart for people who you think have hurt you.

Have you had an experience where you held on to a wrong someone or some people did to you? Have you released them? Or are you still mulling over what they did to you? I can tell you right now… that will get you nowhere. RELEASE them. It doesn’t matter if you think they were wrong and you were right. Everyone has a perspective which makes pronouncing judgment very complicated. When you’re hurt and offended (especially when you’ve been offended in the same area more than once), your perspective is thwarted to satisfy your own defence. To vindicate you even. So your best bet, is to let it go. And trust God to bring healing to your OWN life.

The God of Peace shall be with you.

8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you. Phil 4:8-9

So many times, we jump to the wrong conclusions when people say or do things to us. It’s always important to remember a few things:
1. We live in a broken world. Hurt people…hurt people.

2. Offences are never given, they are always taken. That is, most people don’t intentionally set out to hurt you or make you mad. Most people don’t.

Sometimes people will say or do things that really have nothing to do with you. Sometimes they are simply considering their own best interests. Other times, they can’t help but say things a certain way or do things a certain way…simply because they just don’t know better. I have always been told for example that I have a very harsh tone. I would like to think that I am one of the most maternal and loving people you will ever meet, but the tone of my voice and volume too..when I talk to you or when I write sometimes doesn’t come across that way. This has to do with my experiences in the past…and that I was told many, many times that I need to assert myself and “speak up”. Unfortunately, now that I do assert myself and speak up, people sometimes think I am attacking them (Oh! This blog is not about me though. lol!)

It is never worth it to get all bent out of shape because you think someone did something against you. Really and truly, all you have to vouch for that, are your thoughts. Your thoughts. And when you start thinking poison, oooh the enemy will help you mix it well.  When you think on the wretched things that you think people have done to you, that poison will seep into your soul and before long you are calloused and angry. This is why we need to not even go there. Don’t think of all the wrongs that people have done. See the good in as much as you can.

 

The scripture above reinforces that. And I have been learning this basic principle for a few months. Instead of thinking the negative things about someone, instead of thinking that they hate you or that they are out to get you…think on good things. sometimes there is no good thing to come out of what they told you. But the Word still tells us to think on things that are just or pure. Don’t always see things in a negative light.

We know this scripture all too well. But what I think we sometimes don’t get is the second part. That is…WHEN you think about good things…the God of Peace is with you. It’s impossible to think on pure, right, just, good things and not have the God of Peace with you. It’s not that he’s not with you all the time…But when you are all bent out of shape, it’s a bit hard to hear or feel God, am I right?


But

A true love story never ends

This Christ that we talk about so often…He is a Living Person. He loves us with a Personal Love and He looks everyday for the personal response of our love. Look into His face with trust, till His love really shines into your heart. Make His heart glad by telling Him that you do love Him.
…That’s what people who love each other do. They continually remind each other that they love each other because a true love story never ends.

I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.- Jeremiah 31:3

Have a great weekend.

All in

For if we hope for that which we see not, then do we with patience wait for it. Rom 8:25

If you are going to have faith in God for something, you’ve got to go all in. All in.

We’ve heard that phrase before as it relates to placing your entire life’s worth into a hand that you will believe you will win. And while trusting in God is not a gamble, we really have to go “all in” when it comes to trusting in Him. We have to believe in what He has promised and place our entire trust into what He has promised. 

I was reading Hebrews Chapter 11 today along with Romans 8:25, and I realized that every person who believed God to do something, died believing.

That literally scared the stuffing out of me. Well what do you mean they died believing? Some of these people lived for over 100 years and did not see the manifestation of the promise. Abraham for example was promised that his seed would be numbered as sand. That dude packed up all of his belongings and headed South at one Word. He died before it manifested. But because he believed and obeyed, God’s promise did happen. The only thing was that he didn’t live to see it.

What’s the point believing, if you die before it happens?

To be honest, I don’t know. But I believe that God is always trying to get something to us more than what our natural man desires. In part, He does want to give us the ‘desires’ of our hearts. But there is a bigger picture. He wants us to hold on to Him. He wants us to grow as we keep believing Him for that thing.  And if at the end of the day, you don’t see what He has promised. He wants you to still believe. Isn’t that radical?

I believe that we make faith about the things and desires we are believing for, when in essence, it is about the relationship we have with God.

Many times, when we believe God for something, as soon as we’ve received it, our faith dwindles and so does our relationship with Him.

Are you prepared to believe God even if 5 years have passed and you still don’t see His promise being fulfilled in your life. If 10 years have passed and you don’t see it manifested? If 50 years have passed and you don’t see it happening?

How much patience should we have when believing God for His promise?

Are we ready to trust him entirely, despite the trials that may come? Despite how impossible it looks? Despite how long it takes for the breakthrough to happen? Not “Lord, I am going to give you 2 years and then if it doesn’t happen, then I suppose there’s no point”. But an “ALL IN” Trust.

Does He constrain you?

Last weekend, I had the beautiful opportunity to tell someone off. Or as the Guyanese people would say- ‘give them a piece of my mind’. Somehow, I found myself articulating my thoughts in a very diplomatic and professional and most of all Christ-like way. This baffled me for a while. I have always been known to be one of those people who either speaks her mind, or hides her thoughts. Yet somehow on this particular occasion, I was able to speak something totally ‘Christ like’ that would not cause a ‘kerfuffle’ no matter how much the other party wanted to start one up.

I thought about this over the last couple of days… and I realize that I am not the same person that I used to be 4 years ago. I am actually not the same person I was 1 year ago or 6 months ago.

The Love of Christ constrains me- 2Cor 5:14.

That is, the way He loves me, and the way that His love flows in me, constrains me from being a certain way as the days go by. In fact, it makes me uncomfortable to be a certain way.

I realize that this Christian walk of ours is not easy. We are constantly tried just to see how we would react to situations. This will never change. As long as we live, we will be faced with difficult situations and difficult people. However, what matters is not the amount of situations that come, but how we react to them.

I truly believe that the longer we are in a relationship with Christ, we should increase in faith, in all of the fruits of the spirit, in wisdom and so much more. The love of Christ should constrain us from acting any way contrary to God’s way.

We should not want to constantly remain comfortable with the way we are. We should not be okay with the excuse of “this is me, take it or leave it” or “God loves me the way I am, why do I need to change?”  But we should be so much in love with Christ that we want to please Him; and when you want to please someone in a relationship, you are likely going to have to go out of your comfort zone to do so. You are likely to do the things that please Him.

That means, if we find ourselves snapping at people and we know He would not want us to, we would become uncomfortable enough to do something about it.

That means that ten years ago, we may have had only a dot of patience in dealing with people, but as we grow closer to him, we increase in patience.

That means, that if 3 years ago, our faith level was 2%, it should be at least at 5% now.

That means if we were once callous and cold, we should be getting warmer and loveable.

Whatever the situation, the way we respond to it now should be much more different than the way we responded before.

Does the love of Christ constrain you? Does it make you want to change for the better? Does it make you want to grow?

Are you the same since the day you received Christ into your heart?

Tidbit for thought.