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This particular post is not for everyone. It’s not for those who are happily married. It is not for those who are with the loves of their lives. It is not for those who have been given a certain Word from God to wait on Him.

This post is for those who are in a position called ‘stuck’. For those who want to move on, but can’t and don’t know why. But deep down inside you know why. Even if it doesn’t make sense. It could be from a past relationship, or maybe even a present one. Certainly it’s a relationship.

You struggle with understanding why someone left, or why they left without a word, or too few words. You want to make it right, but you know that the chances of that are slim. They’ve lied or maybe you just think they did. You grasp at every rationale answer to understand why they did what they did. Or didn’t do. Yup, this word is for you.

Having been in that position, I can tell you it’s not an easy place to be. It’s a kind of numbing hurt that feels like it won’t ever go away. And it’s a hurt which cannot be healed by the soothing words from any friend. Deep inside you’re tired. You’ve stopped talking to friends about it, because they either avoid the subject or give you a cliche answer about what to do. And while they mean the best, somehow your mind manages to turn all that they say into more questions about the issue.

You are at a place where you want to move on. But even if someone new comes around, you will question their intentions. You will question how long they will stay…If they will do the same as the person before. And so rather than put yourself through that, you deny having coffee, dinner, whatever.  So you are ‘stuck’.

I’ve searched the Word a great deal for answers on how to move on. I know there is something, for the Word says that there is nothing new under the sun, but I haven’t put my hand on it. My ability to move on is progressive, and I had a jump start through a miracle that God did in my heart. But what if you don’t have a miracle? How do you do it?

Over the next few days I want to share on a few steps that might help.

I think the first step is to acknowledge that you feel betrayed. No one ever wants to admit that big word, but the fact is, that when someone hurts you, it is a betrayal of your trust and confidence, not only in that person, but in the future. It doesn’t really matter what others have to say about your being betrayed. This is a subjective feeling. And if you feel betrayed, then you should acknowledge it. I think, when you do, there is some healing unleashed. It’s funny, because once you start to acknowledge that you feel betrayed, the Word of God opens up a lot of examples of people who were betrayed. David was a prime example. So was Solomon. And so was Jesus.

Tomorrow, I will pick up from where I left off.


I am in the process of packing to move out of my apartment… Yay. As I am packing. I realize there’s a lot of stuff… let’s call it what it is…JUNK, that is in my possession that should have been dumped a long time ago.

I mean.. . I have jeans that don’t fit anymore, papers from grade 11, textbooks from first year undergrad, pots that I don’t even use!!! I am getting frustrated… because as I think about it, all this clutter is going to make me have to rent a bigger UHaul!!!

But really, why is it that we hoard so much stuff…???!!

And while we’re at that, why do we hoard so much stuff…in our minds?

You know, when God created the heaven and earth…this was not the first time… (really, it wasn’t. If you want to talk theology about that, meet me after class). But I find it interesting that when God wants to do a new work in his children, He wipes the slate clean. For instance, when He created the heavens and the earth, he started from scratch. He started with nothingness. And with Sodom and Gomorrah, He wiped out the whole place and told Lot and his wife, to not look back.

God loves yesterday, today and tomorrow. But he often tells us to not focus on yesterday. Why is that? I think it’s because He wants us to know that He is well able to make a better ‘today’ and ‘tomorrow’.

There are some things in our possession that we keep holding on to because we keep thinking that they will have meaning in the future. And no i am not talking about the photo frame that you’re keeping for your unborn child. I am talking about the sweater from your ex, the photo of the two of you in the Twin towers…

Maybe God will miraculously bring you guys back together. But maybe He has something new and better for you. Either way, you will never know unless you release what was in the past.

Do you realize how different you are now? I mean you and ? are two different people. Your likes and dislikes are not the same. And if God did something for you… you will never go back to the good old times. It will be the good new futures.

 

Even in our minds…sometimes we are so afraid to let go of memories, because we’re afraid that we’d forget the person… So we hold on to memories of them…

Please don’t get me wrong… But we can’t move on to tomorrow if we’re still holding on to yesterday. It doesn’t matter who tomorrow is going to be with… there will be newness. It’s so easy to hold on to yesterday. But you know what? God’s got tomorrow in store.  Each day after today is a NEW day. A NEW DAY!!! With NEW things!!! Oooo I am so excited for the new things that are coming!

There is a bright and beautiful future in store for you. Don’t pack your baggage of yesterday with the intention of taking it into your tomorrow.  Make a decision to not hoard your past! Make new memories in Jesus’ name.

Amen.


Yesterday we talked about the things that another way in which we hear from God is through the communication of His spirit and ours. I also mentioned a few things that block our spirits and hence our ability to hear from Him. So today I want to pick up by looking other ways to charge our spirits.

We’ve covered some of the points on spirit charging when we talked about faith. You must spend time in the Word of God, you must pray, and so forth. But I just want to point out a few other things as the Holy Spirit leads me, which we can also use to charge our spirits.

  • Practice  speaking in tongues. You are a spirit being. You have a language that your natural self can’t understand.  If you don’t practice speaking it, you will become weak in it. It’s just like learning Spanish. Once you do, you’ll hear God’s voice. Don’t know how it works, but it does.
  • Do a “clean sweep”. It is the spirit of a man that sustains his infirmity (Prov 18:14), but if your spirit is filled with “Guck” (hurt, bitterness, anger, resentment, doubt, fear), you need to clean it out. Hate to use this example but those things will really constipate you spiritually, especially if you’re not taking enough “Living Water” on a regular basis. And so from time to time, you need to take a moment, sit down, concentrate and deal with stuff like that once in a while (they’ll keep popping up in life). You’ll feel so much lighter when you’re done ‘crapping’ them out! And you’ll hear God much clearer.
  • Fast. People don’t like to hear this word. It’s like “whoa!!! Ok that’s pushing it S”. But when you fast your flesh starts to weaken  (that’s why your breath smells, and your perspiration…well you know). The more your flesh weakens, the more your spirit is strengthened. Perhaps some day I will talk on this, but if you really want to hear from God, go on a fast. A serious one where you give up food and anything fleshly and tap into His Word and so forth. I guarantee you you will always want your spirit to be alive.

Think Paul wraps up what I want to say pretty well. So let’s finish with that.

1 Cor 2: 11-16. The Spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God. 11 For who knows a person’s thoughts except their own spirit within them? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God. 12 What we have received is not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may understand what God has freely given us. 13 This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, explaining spiritual realities with Spirit-taught words.14 The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit. 15 The person with the Spirit makes judgments about all things, but such a person is not subject to merely human judgments, 16 for,

“Who has known the mind of the Lord
so as to instruct him?”

But we have the mind of Christ.

You have the spirit of God in you.  That means you already have a point of access to hear from God. Take charge of your spirit and keep it well and you will hear what He’s saying to you.


Words are powerful things.

When God framed the foundation of the earth, everything that he did was created by what he said. That means, every bit of nature, and every human being that we see here today was created by words he spoke. Interestingly, when He created man, His mandate was for man to be like Him. Why? So that he (man) can have dominion on the earth (Gen 1:26). There would be no reason to make man in His image, unless he had to continue the same work that God did. So, when God created you and me, his intention was for us to use our mouths to speak creatively-changing things (‘darkness into light’), naming things (calling dry land ‘seas’) forming things (inventions), etc, just as He did.

What am I getting at? Our words have creative power.  The Scriptures say “Life and death are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21).

I got to thinking and talking to God about this. And I asked God, “how much of what I say during the day is creative?”

“All of it.” He said.

“All of it??”

“Yup.” (This is how God communicates with me when we’re talking. He doesn’t speak Roman, because I don’t.)

As I continue to have this chat, I reminisced on all of the things that I talk about during the day. The truth is whether or not they are productive to my life or not, the words that I speak are creating…something. Why? Because when God said “Let us make man in our image”, His words became legally binding, such that, I was made a creative speaker just as He. So when I speak something…anything…., my words create either death or life.

Well S how does that work? Have you ever said “I feel like crap”? Or “My car is a piece of crap”? When you did, what was the result of it? It might not happen right away, but what you say ends up being what you get. Now, don’t get me wrong. If you’re not feeling well already, then you’re not feeling well. But when you SAY it out loud, your ears hear what you say, and the same ‘messengers on the bus’ take back what you spoke into your spirit. In short, you’re making yourself sicker every time you say it.

The same thing with the car. I heard a woman testify that she used to cuss out her car on a regular basis because it won’t perform the way she wanted. But the more she cussed, the worse the car got. One day, God said to her, “why don’t you use your mouth to speak what you want the car to do?” She had never thought about it, but after repenting to God (and her car), she laid her hands on the car and said “Momo, you’ve been faithful. Thank God for that. I can’t afford another car right now, so I need you to work for me until I can. Father thank you for making Momo work well, IJN” The car worked until she got a new one. Never gave her a single problem.

I want to stop here because I feel God wants to say this to someone.

Husbands/Wives/BFs/GFs. It’s important that you tell your mate that you love them daily. Don’t assume that they know. Your words create peace and stability in your relationship. Also, speak positively about him or her. None of that “you’re such a moron” bit. Pay him a compliment. Tell her she looks amazing. “Pleasant words are sweet as a honeycomb-Sweet to the soul and health to the bones” (Prov 16:24). When you say them they create healing.

Mothers and Fathers. Speak good success to your children. If they are not doing well in school, don’t tell them “what the hell is wrong with you?” Your words can create depression and low self esteem. I can’t tell you how many men I know now that are messed up because of ill words spoken. Tell them that you believe in them, that have intelligent abilities. Your words create hope. My mom used to say to me regularly “you’ll look good in a paperbag!”. Until today, I am convinced that I can put on anything, and I will rock it!

Sisters and Brothers. Sibling rivalry is common. But tell your sibling that you thank God for them even if they choose to cuss you out. Your words are seeds of unity and restoration.

Friends…especially the ones that have been messed up for whatever reason. If there is a nudging in your heart about a friend in your life, that God trying to tell you to make that relationship right. You probably think that God wanted that relationship to end, but the mere fact that it’s coming up so strongly in your Spirit, it means that it was not God that ended it. Say you’re sorry. Even if you don’t think you’ve done anything wrong, say it. Your words dismantle anger and bitterness.  Saying you’re sorry is one of the most powerful things I think. It breaks pride, it brings love, it heals, it restores. 

People…in relationships who think that you should not say anything to the other person, because you don’t want to hurt, mess things up, etc. There’s a spirit of avoidance at work that you need to bind. God is the God of relationships. Your silence is being misinterpreted. If you think that if you speak you will do damage, then you need to practice speaking positively. So open your mouth and sow a seed of positive value. You don’t need to do a whole lot of talking. A simple “thank you for being you” will do. Lol. When in doubt, text, email, Whatapp a scripture verse. Nothing has more power than the word of God. Your words break confusion and brings reassurance.

Now I know we’re talking about faith this week, but I just felt that was the direction that God wanted me to go this morning. I’ll pick up on how words bring faith tomorrow. :)

Have a great day. And remember Speak Life.


If there’s anything I have learned in the past few months, it’s that God has a protocol for everything. We saw a little bit of the protocol for answered prayer a few weeks ago. So what is the protocol for faith? I’m sure I’ll publish a book on these protocols some day (along with the many other books I plan to publish), but for now, I just want to touch on one that the Holy Spirit gave me this morning.

Romans 10:14-17 says

14 How then shall they call on Him in whom they have not believed? And how shall they believe in Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher? 15And how shall they preach unless they are sent? As it is written:

“How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the gospel of peace,
Who bring glad tidings of good things!”

16 But they have not all obeyed the gospel. For Isaiah says, “Lord, who has believed our report?”

17 So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.

The moment I asked God to show me how to get faith, this scripture came to mind. In this text, Paul was referring to people who didn’t believe the gospel simply because they had not heard it.

I think that we humans are an absolutely amazing creation. God created our eyes, ears, mouths, skin and nose as the smallest external parts of our bodies and even though they are so seemingly irrelevant they are among the most powerful tools that he has given us to connect with the world around us. The ears are particularly special (so are the eyes), because they are an integral connector from the natural to the spiritual realm. How’s so?

Have you ever given thought to the things you hear everyday? Have you ever wondered about how it is that you can hear the same song as you drive to work everyday, and without even trying, you subconsciously start singing the song as if you wrote it? That’s because your ears have taken words out of the airwaves, and through an intricate audio system, transferred them to your brain, which then transfers it to your mouth.

Here’s what’s even more interesting.

Let’s say you hear a song…the same song everyday on your way to work. “Lonely, I am so lonely, I have nobody to call my own”. You’re hearing this song EVERYDAY. Your brain sends out these little ‘buses’, that picks up every word that you routinely hear and brings them back to your ‘brain base’. When you hear it again, your brain will send out other ‘little buses’ with these words…as many words as it can, that matches the song you are hearing, so that you can sing bits of it. Every time a ‘bus’ transfers messages (bus’ passengers) to your mouth, it also deposits some of the same message to your spirit (I’m really not pulling this out of thin air, I once took Psychology as a concentration. But if you’re in doubt,  Dr Caroline Leaf is Christian psychologist/communication pathologist that studies these thought processes and how they work. Look her up). Every time you hear the song, you deposit bits of what you hear into your spirit.

Now think about this! We human beings are hearing things every second of every minute of every day! We hear the fridge at night when we sleep, we hear the car engine revving, we hear birds chirping. But we also hear WORDS that people say. We hear “you look beautiful today”, “great job”, “Wow you’re amazing”. We also hear “you’re such a donkey”, “what an idiot”, “you’re not good enough”, “the economy is hard. You won’t get a job now”. We hear words through our songs, through the TV shows we watch because they exemplify our lives, from our close friends and family. And for every word you hear, there is a deposit into your spirit.

Here’s my personal story. PS: I am not writing this for sympathy. It’s really part of my testimony.

I once dated a guy that I loved very much. We broke up. I was heartbroken for a loooooooong time. So much that I fell into a depression that I felt no one really understood. During that time, I found that all these sad love songs and romantic movies exemplified where I was. I found comfort in them: Tony Braxton-Unbreak my heart, Whitney Houston-Why does it hurt so bad, It must have been love…and others I really can’t remember. One Tree Hill, 90210, and other relationship ‘dramas’ were my faves. I also had a group of ‘friends’ who comforted me with ‘men are idiots’ or ‘maybe it’s this quality that he didn’t like’. My depression period went on for about 2 years. I did fight as best as I knew how, but the fact is, all I was listening to was hurting me. Were these things bad? I dunno. It’s not my place to judge. But what I was hearing was making me stay in a place of hurt and excruciating emotional pain for a long time. More than that, it made me make some really bad decisions. The full testimony is yet to be told, but I had to make a stringent effort to block my ears from hearing these things, if I wanted to heal. So, I changed my mp3 play list. I started to listen to “Yes, Jesus Loves me”, “I’ve got the victory”, “Yet, Still I rise”, “I’m coming out (Aretha Franklin’s version)”. I stopped (literally) watching any sitcom or movie that would make me cry and reminisce on him. I also had to cut out friendships that insisted on being negative about men; they needed as much help as I and they were only making me hate him, or doubt my worth. I didn’t want that as a Christian. Bottom line, today I’m here. (Smile, Smile, Smile) Healed from the hurt. God did that. 

Was I being extreme? Probably. But I needed to get out of the frame that I was in, and what I did worked.

What you hear is imperative to your faith walk. If you constantly listen to things that will make you depressed, broken, miserable, selfish, FEARFUL (that’s one we’ll address later this week), non-progressive, doubting your worth- it will be very difficult for you to have faith in God for the good things He’s promised. These things will seep into your spirit and keep you from receiving God’s blessings for you. It is no wonder Jesus said “take heed what you hear” (Mark 4:24).

On the other hand, if you listen to things that are ‘good, true, lovely, noble, of GOOD REPORT’, your faith will be strengthened. Don’t take my word for it. Try it. Write a list of all the negative things you hear and the media you get them from, in a week. Then cut them out of your life (call it a fast if you want). Replace them with an audio bible in a version that’s practical. Listen to songs that are positive, that celebrate victory. Tune into a TV show that will build you up (good luck with that. I tend to just watch Vision TV or the Food network or TBN). Try that for a week. See if you don’t notice your faith increasing.

Talked enough for today. Be blessed. And take heed what you’re hearing.


All of the things that we discussed in the last few days have one thing in common- the need to believe.

Experience may have taught us that going into a relationship without trust and belief can be very problematic.  These two things need to be established at the very beginning of the relationship. Can you imagine committing to a relationship with someone that you don’t trust?

For us, Salvation is the first commitment into a long life relationship with Christ. It’s a relationship that Christ asks us for, and we commit by saying “yes”.

If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. (Rom 10:9)

But saying “yes” to Christ cannot just be lip service. Like any relationship, when we say “yes” to Him we are saying “I am willing to trust you”, “I believe in the work you did for me on Calvary and I am totally ready to commit to you”. In saying “yes” to Christ we not only declare with our mouths, but we believe in our hearts whatever He says and whatever He promises us.
Now, many of us have a problem with believing in people. People have made promises and have broken them. There have been experiences where trust was lost and they have hindered us from opening up to others in the future. We do this to safeguard ourselves from being hurt, and that’s understandable. But many times, in shutting people out, we also shut Christ out. It’s subtle, because we’ve never seen Him and so we don’t really feel the impact of shutting Him out. But somehow, the enemy convinces us that we also can’t trust this Jesus and God that we haven’t even seen. And just like the rest of people who have hurt us, we place God and the rest of the Trinity in the same boat. Why do I say that?

When you have a good relationship with a friend, you are likely to do three things.

1. talk to them

2. boast about them

3. bring them into your private space (e.g. your home, your heart, etc)

But when the friendship goes sour, you do the reverse:

1. you stop talking to them

2. you stop boasting/ talking positively about them

3. you shut them out of your space.

Why? Because you stop believing in them.

Does that sound like our relationship with Christ? That’s how subtle it is to stop believing in Him.

The Holy Spirit has been challenging me in this area. He showed me that there have been times when people have hurt us, and we’ve allowed those sour relationships to dictate our relationship with Christ. As a result, there are parts of us that have stopped believing in Him even though we’re saved. There are even times when we feel like God has hurt us because we haven’t seen Him answer a prayer, or do something we thought He should do. And so we pray, but we don’t really believe that He will answer. Sometimes we even stop talking to Him. We’ve stopped talking about Him the way we used to. We’ve cut Him out of our private spaces.

At the beginning of this week, I had no idea what God was doing when He took me back to the Cross. But I now submit to you that if we do not totally believe  in the Christ that came to give us a better, victorious life, we also cannot receive from God the things that He has for us. An atmosphere of faith must be established so that God can move. Hebrews 11:6 says

“they that cometh to God MUST BELIEVE that He is, and that He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him.

We have to believe. I have had to deal with this in my own life, because although I said “yes” to Christ long ago, there are times the rest of me says “no”.

As a Christian, your mouth must have declared that you believe Jesus Christ is Lord. But now it’s time for the rest of you (your heart, your mind and your will) to say “yes”.  Ask yourself these questions:

1. Does my heart believe that Jesus Christ is Lord and that He was raised from the dead?

2. Does my mind believe that Jesus Christ is Lord?

3.Is my will totally surrendered to the belief of my mind and heart that Jesus Christ is Lord?

When these three parts of you can align with what you’ve said with your mouth (that Jesus is Lord), you will have activated an atmosphere of Faith that is ready for God to move greatly in your life.

Pray for your mind, heart and will to align with the salvation of your mouth.


OK. We’re at the end of our journey of discovering our weapons. I know it’s been quite a mouthful, but I believe that God wants us to know who we are in Him  and how we should rightfully defend and fight for what He has promised us.

The bottom line is this: We are warriors. The moment we get this, I think life as we know it will be over. We don’t need to cry desperately when we’ve lost things or people… We don’t need to put up with certain attacks because the enemy throws them at us. We have to take our stand as God’s elect on this earth. The realm of the spirit is engaged in a spiritual war, a real spiritual war and it’s over the things that God has promised to His Sons. Remember that Satan fell from his original position and everything that God blessed him with (the ability to worship and glorify God in everything done), is now given to us. The devil cannot like you. You took his birthright! So understand that your days and nights, your past and future has and will continue to be messed with for one single purpose: So that the enemy can take you out. If he can take you out by making you fall into depression, financial struggles, sickness, or whatever, he will do just that.

You simply cannot allow him to ruin your life, your husband’s life, your children’s lives. You have to engage in the battle. You may ask “why do I need to fight if God is already fighting for me?” It’s a great question. The host of heaven is backing you. But the greatest secret is that they take their commands from their Chief Commander…and He makes those commands based on your actions and what you tell Him. He cannot operate outside of your choice for your life. Choice is the one thing He gave us. So if you choose.to continue in depression, there is nothing He can do. So how do you act in synchronization with God? Let’s recap what your weapons:

1.Weapon of Praise-Don’t be attacked by depression. Fight it!

2.The Weapon in your Mouth (your tongue)-Use your tongue to destroy the enemy’s stronghold and to create what you want to see in your life.

3.The weapon of the Word- your sword. Every mighty soldier needs a sword. Slice and dice the enemy with the Word of God.

4. The weapon of Righteousness-Your armor. You go into battle with the Blood of the Lamb. Know that you have been made righteous.

5.The weapon of Silence-Don’t be attacked by frivolous and futile people. Say this” I am purpose driven individual and I refuse to be disturbed or distracted by insignificant people.

6. The weapon of Truth- Fight the enemy with Truth. Not fact.

7. The weapon of Focus: Focus your sword and all other weapons on one demonic attack and take it down.

8. The weapon of Fasting: take your orders from Chief Commander. Open up your frequency for clear transmission, and once He speaks, act. You two must be in tune with each other.

I will tell you a secret. One of the reasons I write, is because I have gone through a lot of stuff. Stuff that many people don’t know. I know what it is to be kicked to the ground, and when not even sure how to get up, to get kicked again. Depression? Been there. Broken hearted? Been there too. Mentally debilitated, physically sick, “not a penny to my name” used to be my middle names. But I realize that those were the things that the enemy did to destroy my calling, and what God had planned for me. And if I did not engage, my death was sure> I say all of this to let you know that I know what you’re facing, because I’ve been there. But I’ve learned that the only way to get out of Lodebar, is to fight. Get up, out of your misery and determine that you will not stay where you are. That you will not sit by and wimp out while your relationships, your marriage, your person is under attack.

I like what the prodigal son said when He came to his senses:

How many of my father’s hired servants have food to spare, and here I am starving to death!  I will set out and go back to my father- Luke 15: 17

God has a kingdom for his children that is rich with happiness, blessings and more. But we have to come to our senses. We have to realize that there is a real enemy trying to block that and we have to fight him.
So mighty Man/Woman of Valor, Pick yourself up with whatever little courage you have, and fight. Your victory is secure.



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